The Return of the Prodigal Son: A Story of Homecoming – Part 3: The Father

While he was still aa long way off, his father saw him and was moved with pity. He ran to the boy, clasped him in his arms and kissed him… the father said to his servants, “Quick! Bring out the best robe and put it on him; put a ring on his finger and sandals on his feet. Bring the calf we have been fattening, and kill it; we will celebrate by having a feast, because this son of mine was dead and has come back to life; he was lost and is found.” And they began to celebrate. …his father came out and began to urge him to come in… The father said, “My son, you are with me always, and all I have is yours. But it was only right we should celebrate and rejoice, because your brother here was dead and has come to life; he was lost and is found.”

The Father Welcomes Home

Luke’s story makes it very clear that the father goes out to both of his children. Not only does he run out to welcome the younger wayward son, but he comes out also to meet the elder, dutiful son as he returns from the fields wondering what the music and dancing are all about and urges him to come in.

We do not choose God, God chooses us. From all eternity we are hidden “in the shadow of God’s hand” and “engraved on his palm.” Before any human being touches us, God “forms us in secret” and “textures us” in the depth of the earth, and before any human being decides about us, God “knits us together in our mother’s womb.” God loves us before any human person can show love to us. He loves us with a “first” love, an unlimited, unconditional love, wants us to be his beloved children, and tells us to become as loving as himself.

I wonder whether I have sufficiently realized that during all this time God has been trying to find me, to know me, and to love me. The question is not “How am I to find God?” but “How am I to let myself be known by God?” And, finally, the question is not “How am I to love God?” but “How am I to let myself be loved by God?” God is looking into the distance for me, trying to find me, and longing to bring me home. In all three parables which Jesus tells in response to the question of why he eats with sinners, he puts the emphasis on God’s initiative. God is the shepherd who goes looking for this lost sheep. God is the woman who lights a lamp, sweeps out the house, and searches everywhere for her lost coin until she has found it. God is the father who watches and waits for his children, runs out to meet them, embraces them, pleads with them, begs and urges them to come home.

Many consumerist economies stay afloat by manipulating the low self-esteem of their consumers and by creating spiritual expectations through material means. As long as I am kept “small,” I can easily be seduced to buy things, meet people, or go places that promise a radical change in self-concept even though they are totally incapable of bringing this about.

The parable of the prodigal son is a story that speaks about a love that existed before any rejection was possible and that will still be there after all rejections have taken place. It is the first and everlasting love of a God who is Father as well as Mother. It is the fountain of all true human love, even the most limited. Jesus’ whole life and preaching had only one aim: to reveal this inexhaustible, unlimited motherly and fatherly love of his God and to show the way to let that love guide every part of our daily lives. It is love that always welcomes home and always wants to celebrate.

The Father Calls For A Celebration

The father does not even give his son a chance to apologize. He pre-empts his son’s begging by spontaneous forgiveness and puts aside his pleas as completely irrelevant in the light of the joy at his return. But there is more. Not only does the father forgive without asking questions and joyfully welcome his lost son home, but he cannot wait to give him new life, life in abundance. So strongly does God desire to give life to his returning son that he seems almost impatient. Nothing is good enough. The very best must be given to him. While the son is prepared to be treated as a hired servant, the father calls for the robe reserved for a distinguished guest; and, although the son no longer feels worthy to be called son, the father gives him a ring for his finger and sandals for his feet to honor him as his beloved son and restore him as his heir.

Celebration belongs to God’s Kingdom. God not only offers forgiveness, reconciliation, and healing, but wants to lift up these gifts as a source of joy for all who witness them. In all three of the parables (lamp, coin, brother) which Jesus tells to explain why he eats with sinners, God rejoices and invites others to rejoice with him. “Rejoice with me,” the shepherd says, “I have found my sheep that was lost.” “Rejoice with me,” the woman says, “I have found the drachma I lost.” “Rejoice with me,” the father saus, “this son of mine was lost and is found.”

The father wants all the people around him to join him around the table, to eat and dance with him. This is not a private affair. This is something for all in the family to celebrate in gratitude.

Joy never denies the sadness, but transforms it to a fertile soil for more joy.

Future Faith: Challenge Two: Embracing the Color of the Future

In the previous post about Future Faith I discussed the first challenge of revitalizing withering congregations. I discussed the question of whether churches will be locked into a parochial story of their gradual demise or liberated by a global story that is bringing new life into its midst from unexpected places.

Today I am discussing the second challenge of embracing the color of the future.

It seems to be the case that when people talk about the “Nones” they are talking mostly about whites. Just go to one of Portland’s fabulous downtown coffee shops such as Floyd’s, Barista, or Spella Caffe on a Sunday morning and look at who’s sipping a latte instead of singing in church. They’re mostly young, hip, urban, and white.

Pockets of growth and vitality among many different denominational groups are being driven by nonwhite believers.

Those in mainline Protestant churches steadily declined in number, from forty-one million in 2007 to thirty-six million in 2014 according to the Pew study. But during that same period, the percentage of nonwhites among those denominations increased from 9 percent to 14 percent *.

Decades earlier, the Reformed Church of America had established distinct racial-ethnic councils. Later, they committed themselves to antiracism training, instituted a new Commission on Race and Ethnicity, held summit meetings on “building a multiracial future,” and increased the racial diversity of their staff. Then, for the first time in their recent history, they adopted a new confession of faith.

The Belhar Confession came as a gift from the church in South Africa, born out of the struggle against apartheid, and declared that racial reconciliation, unity, and justice were essential dimensions of Christian faith.

Denominations across the US religious landscape must embrace a multiracial future, with all the changes in power and participation that this necessitates, or they will dwindle as self-protective white minorities.

White Protestants are in decline. From 1991 to 2014, their total number decreased by 33 percent *. At the same time, nonwhite racial-ethnic groups are becoming places of growth as well as fresh religious vitality within the changing US religious landscape.

Consider this: Among all those in the United States who are sixty-five or older today, nearly two-thirds are either white Protestants, white Catholics, or white evangelicals. But among those who are eighteen to twenty-nine, white believers make up only 28 percent of that total group *.

The commitment to challenge existing patterns of thought and structure, and to reconfigure the understanding of faith in a postmodern and post-Christian context, resonates deeply with millennials, as well as many others in the broader Christian world.

One of the issues frequently discussed about the emerging church movement is the extent of its racial diversity, or lack thereof. It’s a question that its own thought leaders have directly engaged. In some ways, we’re drawn back to the basic question about the “Nones”—how much is this a largely white phenomenon, and to what extent are efforts responding to this reality centered only in the progressive, white Christian community?

The above mentioned paragraph made me wonder if we as a predominantly white reformed church in Southern Africa, the Dutch Reformed Church, should focus on the white majority or shift focus to those that are non-white that have not heard the gospel, or does not have a place of refuge, of worship? Or, should it be an either-or-argument, or rather an and-and-argument? How can a predominantly white church focus on the marginalised without losing its current members? Maybe just doing the Gospel?

The other emerging reality in the US religious landscape that often has gone unnoticed is the growth of multiracial congregations.

In 2008 only 350,000 congregations in the US, only about 7 percent met that definition of being multiracial. But in recent years, Michael O. Emerson, one of the leading authors and researchers of multiracial congregations, has documented a marked increase in such congregations to 13.7 percent of US congregations.

Middle Collegiate Church vision reaches to a multiracial future. Long embodying that reality, for the past decade Middle and its lead pastor, Rev. Jacqui Lewis, have hosted an annual conference bringing together pastors and practitioners working in multiracial contexts and advocating for justice.

Public schools are found to be six times more diverse than the average US congregation. As long as such disparities persist, a younger generation, in particular, will find it unnatural to participate in churches preaching a message of reconciliation and love with a membership far less racially diverse than the schools they attended.

Central to the story of the Pentecost in Acts 2 and the early church, crossing the cultural and racial boundaries between Jew and Greek, producing congregations such as the one in Antioch with dramatic racial and cultural diversity reflected in its leadership (see Acts 13:1–2).

David Roozen’s study, “American Congregations 2015: Thriving and Surviving,” One striking finding was this: multiethnic congregations showed more spiritual vitality than their primarily white counterparts. Here’s what the study said: Racial/ethnic congregations remain more energized than congregations in which a majority of its members are white whether looking at vitality or attendance growth *. This important empirical observation shouldn’t lead to simplistic conclusions, denying, for instance, the evident spirituality and vitality found in any number of primarily white and growing congregations. Findings like these are always matters of percentages and degrees. In this case, for instance, 43.3 percent of multiethnic congregations were found to have high vitality, contrasted to 24 percent of majority white congregations. Further, 53.6 percent of multiethnic congregations showed growth in attendance, compared to 29 percent of the mostly white congregations that have long predominated in the US religious landscape. Those percentages are almost 2 to 1 contrasts, revealing a significant difference.

So, what is the color of America’s religious future?

  • Clearly, white will no longer be dominant.
  • Statistically, places of growth that are occurring within established denominations across the board in the United States—Catholic, evangelical, Pentecostal, and mainline Protestant—are being driven decisively by emerging nonwhite groups.
  • Spiritually, multi ethnic expressions of the church, increasing in number and influence, are more likely to exhibit vitality and growth.

The North American church must embrace the changing color of its future with a decisive shift in its dynamics of power or face a life as a dwindling white minority clinging to places of protective refuge.

discussion guide

  • What is a “None”? Do you know any? How has your faith community talked about the “Nones”?
  • Why does the author suggest that denominations and faith communities focus on being more multiracially diverse and aware?
  • What strategies or examples of racial diversity did the author provide? In what ways do these examples help or encourage your own faith community to become more racially diverse?
  • What is your reaction to the author’s statement that “the North American church must embrace the changing color of its future with its decisive shift in its dynamics of power”? If you agree with the statement, what might that mean for your faith community now and in the future?
  • What more do you want to learn or do based on reading this chapter of the book?

 

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The Return of the Prodigal Son: A Story of Homecoming – Part 2: The Elder Son

Now the elder son was out in the fields, and on his way back, as he drew near the house, he could hear music and dancing. Calling one of the servants he asked what it was all about. The servant told him, “Your brother has come, and your father has killed the calf we had been fattening because he has got him back safe and sound.” He was angry then and refused to go in, and his father came out and began to urge him to come in; but he retorted to his father, “All these years I have slaved for you and never once disobeyed any orders of yours, yet you never offered me so much as a kid for me to celebrate with my friends. But, for this son of yours, when he comes back after swallowing up your property -he and his loose women- you kill the calf we had been fattening.” (Luke 15:25-30)

The elder son leaves

The main observer, watching the father embracing his returning son, appears very withdrawn.

This parable might well be called “The Parable of the Lost Sons.: Not only did the younger son, who left home to look for freedom and happiness in a distant country, get lost, but the one who stayed home also became a lost man. Exteriorly he did all the things a good son is supposed to do, but, interiorly, he wandered away from his father. He did his duty, worked hard every day, and fulfilled all his obligations but became increasingly unhappy and unfree.

This is not something unique. There are many elder sons and elder daughters who are lost while still at home.

The lostness of the elder son, however, is much harder to identify. After all, he did all the right things. He was obedient, dutiful, law-abiding, and hardworking. People respected him, admired him, praised him, and likely considered him a model son. Outwardly, the elder son was faultless. But when confronted by his father’s joy at the return of his younger brother, a dark power erupts in him and boils to the surface. Suddenly, there becomes glaringly visible a resentful, proud, unkind, selfish person, one that had remained deeply hidden, even though it had been growing stronger and more powerful over the years.

There is so much frozen anger among the people who are so concerned about avoiding “sin”.

Why do people not thank me, not invite me, not play with me, not honor me, while they pay so much attention to those who take life so easily and so casually?

Whenever I express my complaints in the hope of evoking pity and receiving the satisfaction I so much desire, the result is always the opposite of what I tried. A complainer is hard to live with, and very few people know how to respond to the complaints made by a self-rejecting person. The tragedy is that, often, the complaint, once expressed, leads to that which is most feared: further rejection.

The story says: “Calling one of the servants, he asked what it was all about.” There is the fear that I am excluded again, that someone didn’t tell me what was going on, that I was kept out of things. The complaint resurges immediately: “Why was I not informed, what is this all about?” The unsuspecting servant, full of excitement and eager to share the good news, explains: “Your brother has come, and your father has killed the calf we had been fattening because he has got him back safe and sound.” But this shout of joy cannot be received. Instead of relief and gratitude, the servant’s joy summons up the opposite: “He was angry then and refused to go in.” Joy and resentment cannot coexist. The music and dancing, instead of inviting to joy, become a cause for even greater withdrawal.

Is the elder brother willing to acknowledge that he is not better than his brother?

It leaves us face to face with one of life’s hardest spiritual choices: to trust or not to trust in God’s all-forgiving love.

Just when I do my utmost to accomplish a task well, I find myself questioning why others do not give themselves as I do. Just when I think I am capable of overcoming my temptations, I feel envy toward those who gave in to theirs.

The elder son’s return

The Father’s love does not force itself on the beloved. Although he wants to heal us of all our inner darkness, we are still free to make our own choice to stay in the darkness or to step into the light of God’s love. God is there. God’s light is there. God’s forgiveness is there. God’s boundless love is there. What is so clear is that God is always there, always ready to give and forgive, absolutely independent of our response. God’s love does not depend on our repentance or our inner or outer changes.

This man welcomes sinners and eats with them.

The harsh and bitter reproaches of the elder son are not met with words of judgement. The father does not defend himself or even comment on the elder son’s behaviour.

God is urging me to come home, to enter into his light, and to discover there that, in God, all people are uniquely and completely loved.

It is not surprising that, in his anger, the elder son complains to the father: “…you never offered me so much as a kid for me to celebrate with my friends. But, for this son of yours, when he comes back after swallowing up your property -he and his loose women- you kill the calf we had been fattening.” These words reveal how deeply hurt this man must feel. His self-esteem is painfully wounded by his father’s joy, and his own anger prevents him from accepting this returning scoundrel as his brother. With the words “this son of yours” he distances himself from his brother as well as from his father.

Here I see how lost the elder son is. He has become a foreigner in his own house. True communion is gone. Every relationship is pervaded by the darkness.

I know the pain of this predicament. In it, everything loses its spontaneity. Everything becomes suspect, self-conscious, calculated, and full of second-guessing. There is no longer any trust. Each little move calls for a countermove; each little remark begs for analysis; the smallest gesture has to be evaluated. This is the pathology of the darkness.

The words of the father in the parable: “My son, you are with me always, and all I have is yours” express the true relationship of God the Father with Jesus his Son.

 

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